2016 is history, and as we welcome 2017 it is time to contemplate. Here are lessons I learned in 2016.
The year is about major upheavals, relocation, coping with parent’s illness and everything else in between.
If I sit down what do I see. Yes, I see myself going through a lot of anxious moments, helplessness oscillating to hopelessness and tears. However, there were some moments of laughter and happiness in anxiety laden days. It is a year to remember with a deep exhale.
Lessons 2016 Taught
Anxiety comes and goes
It’s scary to see your parents getting older
When things become difficult and overwhelming your breath becomes your anchor.
Nature heals, creating simple rituals in nature like watching sunrise or sunset taking mini nature breaks by spending ten minutes with your plants, or observing trees around your house helps greatly.
Every bad situation is just a situation and it WILL change as every good situation also alters.
When things are difficult people will be more difficult. At such time be kind and gentle with yourself. Let go of your expectations and just be there for you.
What you focus expands and what you resist persists.
Emotions are like small kids and calm down with attention.
Things take time to fall into place, and patience is what helps. Let the bigger picture emerge, and you will observe that whatever ever happens happens for the best.
I discovered that it may not always be a fight or flight response it could be a freeze response too, and that is dangerous. After reading extensively on this subject, I discovered this to be the root cause of chronic stress and main reason for most manifestations of diseases. It requires time and conscious effort to reduce this frozen stress and finally eliminate it. Yoga, deep breathing meditations are some tools that greatly help.
Another important lesson was; cities don’t matter, but your home does. You can face challenges in the outer world from the safety of your home. And it doesn’t take much to transform a house into a happy home only if you ‘let go’ of certain things. Relocating to a new city and new way of life I felt lost initially. The piles of boxes, stuff all over the place and not finding what I needed was extremely frustrating. There were a lot of adjustments, new ways to adopt and learn through strange experiences.
Then one evening I sat with a cup of tea alone in the house after a tiring day of unpacking and setting the house. The family was out and the house belonged to me.
The western sky was a colourful canvas of orange and gold with a purple tinge of clouds near the horizon. Breeze and wind were playing hide and seek and watching the traffic move along the highway near my home was calming. Strangely, I loved the place and felt happy. That moment something changed in my heart, which helped me ‘let go’ of sadness and regret I was experiencing for the life I had left behind in another city. I felt comfortable in this home and facing the challenges outside would be easier if I have a safe place to come back and close my petals. Home is your heaven.
Sipping tea while watching the sunset every evening is my new ritual. It gives my mind the message that the day is over and becomes a transition point between home and office. When you work from home it is easy to become a workaholic.
This is my take away from 2016.
I welcome 2017 with hope and joy!