Compassion towards oneself is crucial yet most of us are not able to show kindness to ourselves. Being kind to others is good but being kind to ourselves is essential. Why? Because we are here to accept, love and be us. We are not perfect and with all our imperfections, we are unique spiritual beings.
A yoga practice can teach you to be compassionate. Remember any asana you found difficult, that you wanted to be finished, that you wanted to avoid and your teacher insisted you practiced. You did but how? Yes, looking forward to that break of few seconds when you let go and breathe. You relaxed, took deep breaths and were in the moment of letting go.
This space was filled with kindness for yourself. Scientists have proven that compassion is beneficial to our body, mind and soul. It makes us relaxed and happy.
Simple Ways to Nurture Compassion
If you are critical and are always finding fault with others, chances are high that you are self-critical and angry with yourselves. You seek for perfection, which is non-existent.
Watch Your Thoughts
Set an alarm on your mobile four times in a day. Whenever the alarm goes, stop your work take a deep breath and check your last thought. What is it? Just observe was it anger, guilt, blame, stress, complain, resentment, happy, peaceful……Whatever it experience it and observe. Do not get attached to it. Where do you feel it in your body? It will slowly dissipate and go away. Thoughts are often accompanied by emotions and emotions are like kids, they need attention. Once they get the required attention they dissolve.
If you miss your yoga session one day due to any reason just accept it. Let the guilt, anger or self-criticism arise. Observe it and let go. You don’t need to burden yourself with such heavy emotions. And just start the next day. Many times if we miss it one day we tend to find excuses to miss the next day. This creates a pattern, we don’t return to the practice soon and then we get sucked in a vicious circle of finding reasons and excuses to skip the session. We can come back the next day and continue. Be kind here and help yourself just as you help you child.
A Bad Day
When nothing goes right and everything looks bad or hopeless, it’s time to stop. Yes, literally and figuratively. Stop! Breathe deeply, five deep breaths
Now whatever it is that’s not right? Is it an expectation, or commitment, your little one, illness, other family members just make a note of it mentally or write it.
Will this matter to you after one year?
Mostly, it won’t but if it is very grave, it might.
In both scenarios accept it, feel it and be kind to yourself. Give yourself space to be angry, agitated, resentful or unhappy. It is okay to have these feelings you are human.
After sometime the act of being with it will lose its urgency. Take the required action.
Once you start doing this process you create a resource for yourself. Next time it happens you know what to do.
Space is the mantra wherever you go.
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